Comments on: Bitter is the New Black* http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/ is my GEEK showing? Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:28:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Prom Prom Prominator | Girl Talk Thursday http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2591 Prom Prom Prominator | Girl Talk Thursday Thu, 06 May 2010 15:30:28 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2591 [...] The cherry on top of this disaster sundae was when I escaped into the girls bathroom for what must have been the fifth time that night, and ran into my “social butterfly best friend” – another girl named Sarah, when will I learn?! – who had been alternatively clinging to me and blowing me off for about 10 years. She was drunk, so very drunk, and she stumbled into the bathroom and hung an arm around my neck and told me, “Cat, you were the best friend I ever had. You always fixed all my problems. I don’t appreciate you enough. Let’s hang out more.” Of course, that ended the same way it always did – she never called, never got around to finding time for me despite my attempts to connect. Even worse, I didn’t figure out that I should stop trying until just recently. [...] [...] The cherry on top of this disaster sundae was when I escaped into the girls bathroom for what must have been the fifth time that night, and ran into my “social butterfly best friend” – another girl named Sarah, when will I learn?! – who had been alternatively clinging to me and blowing me off for about 10 years. She was drunk, so very drunk, and she stumbled into the bathroom and hung an arm around my neck and told me, “Cat, you were the best friend I ever had. You always fixed all my problems. I don’t appreciate you enough. Let’s hang out more.” Of course, that ended the same way it always did – she never called, never got around to finding time for me despite my attempts to connect. Even worse, I didn’t figure out that I should stop trying until just recently. [...]

]]> By: Kelly http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2221 Kelly Tue, 26 Jan 2010 20:11:51 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2221 This is where you (I?) remove the doormat from the chest, and the "kick me" sign from the back, right? Where you (I?) realize that we deserve better, and actually demand it? The worst part about that is that no matter how bad they were, how much you put in without getting a damn thing in return, you still miss them. You just wish they would step up and see that you ARE worth the effort, and that you do NOT deserve to be treated like crap. I'm beginning to think that shit only happens in the movies, though. So far, I've yet to see one person realize that I'm worth it, which leaves me feeling like shit. Knowing I'm not the only one, though, does make me feel a little better. .-= Kelly´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Chainsofyesterdaycom/~3/M3B-Fe7Uq8U/" rel="nofollow">I’m alive…</a> =-. This is where you (I?) remove the doormat from the chest, and the “kick me” sign from the back, right? Where you (I?) realize that we deserve better, and actually demand it?
The worst part about that is that no matter how bad they were, how much you put in without getting a damn thing in return, you still miss them. You just wish they would step up and see that you ARE worth the effort, and that you do NOT deserve to be treated like crap.
I’m beginning to think that shit only happens in the movies, though. So far, I’ve yet to see one person realize that I’m worth it, which leaves me feeling like shit. Knowing I’m not the only one, though, does make me feel a little better.
Kelly´s last blog ..I’m alive…

]]> By: Brigid http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2094 Brigid Mon, 11 Jan 2010 01:07:06 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2094 Wow. It sucks so bad to do everything we can and still be let down by those we love. I hope you find peace and comfort in knowing you did all you could. Wow. It sucks so bad to do everything we can and still be let down by those we love. I hope you find peace and comfort in knowing you did all you could.

]]> By: anymommy http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2088 anymommy Sat, 09 Jan 2010 05:45:27 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2088 I'm sorry. It hurts, I've been there. Letting her go was so smart. Less Bitterness, more friends. I love that! .-= anymommy´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/IsThereAnyMommyOutThere/~3/7Pm7pIE-rhg/ten-reasons-i-havent-posted-serious.html" rel="nofollow">Ten Reasons I Haven't Posted Serious Stuff Like I Said I Would</a> =-. I’m sorry. It hurts, I’ve been there. Letting her go was so smart. Less Bitterness, more friends. I love that!
anymommy´s last blog ..Ten Reasons I Haven’t Posted Serious Stuff Like I Said I Would

]]> By: Kekibird http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2078 Kekibird Wed, 06 Jan 2010 22:44:22 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2078 I don't have any resolutions but...reading this touched me. I'm beginning to see that my IRL friendships are dwindling and it makes me so sad. And I had a "Sarah K" friend I'd known since I was 6 years old. I recently took steps to block her in a few ways online just so she couldn't reach out to me. It hurt to let that go but I had to. I think of her, now and then but it hurts less. Hugs honey! .-= Kekibird´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/blogspot/GKRw/~3/j0C47aA5P2U/tripping-at-finish-line.html" rel="nofollow">Tripping At The Finish Line</a> =-. I don’t have any resolutions but…reading this touched me. I’m beginning to see that my IRL friendships are dwindling and it makes me so sad. And I had a “Sarah K” friend I’d known since I was 6 years old. I recently took steps to block her in a few ways online just so she couldn’t reach out to me. It hurt to let that go but I had to. I think of her, now and then but it hurts less. Hugs honey!
Kekibird´s last blog ..Tripping At The Finish Line

]]> By: Sam http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2076 Sam Wed, 06 Jan 2010 19:22:12 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2076 LOVE this post. I have a friend who I get a similar cold shoulder from, and used to keep expecting more from, but I've started to let it go recently. Amazing how long we can hold on to these things, eh? A great resolution. Now be resolute. :) LOVE this post. I have a friend who I get a similar cold shoulder from, and used to keep expecting more from, but I’ve started to let it go recently. Amazing how long we can hold on to these things, eh?

A great resolution. Now be resolute. :)

]]> By: Becky @TheRealBecks http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2074 Becky @TheRealBecks Wed, 06 Jan 2010 17:33:33 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2074 Oh how I can relate to this. I have a friend who's done the same thing to me recently. She said her life is so different than mine now and she's going on a different path and pretty much cut me out of her life completely. Cept we WERE best friends and our friendship was awesome. We were inseperable. I miss her SO much. It's like a terrible break up. I dream about her. I think about her every single day. It sucks. I feel your pain. .-= Becky @TheRealBecks´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.lifeoutoffocus.com/index.php/2010/01/my-blackberry-my-social-life/" rel="nofollow">My Blackberry- My Social Life</a> =-. Oh how I can relate to this. I have a friend who’s done the same thing to me recently. She said her life is so different than mine now and she’s going on a different path and pretty much cut me out of her life completely. Cept we WERE best friends and our friendship was awesome. We were inseperable. I miss her SO much. It’s like a terrible break up. I dream about her. I think about her every single day. It sucks. I feel your pain.
Becky @TheRealBecks´s last blog ..My Blackberry- My Social Life

]]> By: MommyGeek http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2073 MommyGeek Wed, 06 Jan 2010 15:26:07 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2073 <a href="#comment-2061" rel="nofollow">@Issa</a>, thanks sweetie. With friends like you, and others.. well that makes it a lot easier. @Issa, thanks sweetie. With friends like you, and others.. well that makes it a lot easier.

]]> By: MommyGeek http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2072 MommyGeek Wed, 06 Jan 2010 15:25:21 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2072 <a href="#comment-2060" rel="nofollow">@Kel</a>, good thing I've got you then, huh? :) @Kel, good thing I’ve got you then, huh? :)

]]> By: MommyGeek http://mommygeekology.com/2010/01/bitter-is-the-new-black/comment-page-1/#comment-2071 MommyGeek Wed, 06 Jan 2010 15:08:33 +0000 http://mommygeekology.com/?p=637#comment-2071 <a href="#comment-2059" rel="nofollow">@Chefdruck</a>, I have a lot of friends like that too. I should say "friends" - those who vowed to stick by me through my pregnancy and my kids and we'd still hang out! We'd still have fun! I called, I emailed, I messaged, I did everything I could to connect. They weren't interested. I guess my life was too serious for them. It's too bad. They really missed out on some fun times. At least, that's what I try to tell myself. Facebook is the worst for that reason... I just can't help myself.. I look at their pages, read their updates, peek at their photos.. I wonder what could have been. @Chefdruck, I have a lot of friends like that too. I should say “friends” – those who vowed to stick by me through my pregnancy and my kids and we’d still hang out! We’d still have fun! I called, I emailed, I messaged, I did everything I could to connect. They weren’t interested. I guess my life was too serious for them. It’s too bad. They really missed out on some fun times. At least, that’s what I try to tell myself.

Facebook is the worst for that reason… I just can’t help myself.. I look at their pages, read their updates, peek at their photos.. I wonder what could have been.

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